13 Expert Tips for Clitoral Stimulation – Give Her a Clitoral Orgasm

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When it comes to reaching orgasm, most women need more than plain old penetration.

Your penis is great and all, but only a quarter of women routinely come during vaginal intercourse—which means a lot of ladies need some clitoral stimulation in order to climax.

Your penis is great and all, but only a quarter of women routinely come during vaginal intercourse—which means a lot of ladies need some clitoral stimulation in order to climax.

And now, to stimulate the clitoris. Because the clit is so sensitive, 67% of women prefer stimulation in or around the clitoris, not directly on it. If you’re not sure what she prefers, remember this universal piece of advice: ask her!

Surprise your partner tonight with one—or all—of these clitoral stimulation tricks, using not just your tongue, but also your lips, fingers, and toys. And don’t forget: there are a number of sex positions where you can reach around and stimulate her clit with your fingers or a vibrator while penetrating her. There’s no reason why penetration and clit stimulation have to be separate; the two can (and should!) exist in perfect harmony.

Instead of just licking her, use your lips and tongue to suck on her clit.

“The entire vulva consists of sensitive nerve fibers,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. “So being able to suck on the glans or the head of the clit and lightly nibble on her inner and outer labia, or suck a little on labia, will stimulate the nerve fibers.”

The sucking will also lead to increased vasocongestion, or more blood flow, to the vulva and the clitoris—”like a little vacuum pump,” Kerner says.

When researchers from Indiana University surveyed 1,055 women about their favorite sex techniques, 3 out of 4 women said they love it when you trace little circles on or around her clit.

You can use your tongue, your finger, or two fingers—or all of the above.

While you’re drawing those circles, try “hinting”—focusing on the area near her clitoris, and only occasionally coming in for a direct touch. In that same Indiana University survey — which was used to create the website OMGYES—7 out of 10 women said they were into this technique.

“Use one finger flicking all around the clitoris, but not directly on it,” says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author and founder of sexpert.com. “To bring your partner to orgasm, once she is at the height of pleasure, you’ll want to maintain a steady consistent stroke.”

When it comes to clitoral stimulation, 4 out of 10 women have a preferred side, the same survey found. Ask her if there’s a side she likes better—and if she’s not sure, experiment on both.

When you’re flicking your tongue over her clitoris, imagine you are painting a fence from top to bottom, says Cadell, “alternating between up and down.” Next, “go into the windshield wiper move of using your tongue to go side-to-side.”

While a lot of attention is spent on the the tip of the clitoris—the part located at the top of the vulva—it also has two “legs” that extend up to five inches inside the body, known as the “shaft.”

“Slide your fingers to either side of her clitoral shaft,” Dr. Cadell explains. “Pull and push the clitoral hood across the clitoris and move in circles, diagonals, and spontaneous un-choreographed fashions so as to stay unpredictable.”

Once your partner is in the midst of an orgasm, add some oral vibration to her experience.

 

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